I think my partner is cheating on me. How can I find out?

Trust is a very important part of any relationship. The fact that you have asked this question indicates that you are losing trust.

There are a number of different ways to approach this – from asking your partner directly, to spying on him/her. Any method you choose to employ has its risks.

Some publications will tell you that there is a list of signs your partner is having an affair, such as not spending as much time with you, spending money or increased personal grooming. The trouble is with these so called signs is that they could all be innocent.

Whatever you decide to do, you need to make the decision between risking what you have because of lost trust, or living with doubt. It’s a hard decision that should not be made lightly. Perhaps you could confide in a trusted friend, or talk to a counselor or community agency, e.g. Youthline.

Think of ways to spend more time together to improve your relationship. Tell your partner that your relationship doesn’t feel the same as it used to and that you want to try to get it back on track.