INTERCOURSE

1. I had sex last night and the condom broke/came off. I am really worried about getting pregnant. What can I do?

You can take something called the Emergency Contraceptive Pill, or ECP. This used to be known as the Morning After Pill, but you actually have up to 72 hours to start taking it, though the sooner the better. To obtain the ECP, you can visit either FPA, a Sexual Health Service, your own doctor, or many pharmacies supply it over the counter.

Because the condom broke, you may be at risk of STIs, so it would be a good idea to have a sexual health check-up at an FPA clinic, Sexual Health Service or your own Doctor.

2. I have just started to have sex but it really hurts. What can I do so that it doesn't hurt?

Painful intercouse (sex) can be caused by many different things. The most common is the fact that you might not be ready to have sex. If you are tense or your vagina is dry, intercourse may be painful. More foreplay may help and try using a water based lubricant.

Another possibility is that you have an STI or an infection. Some STIs cause pain during or after sex. You can visit either FPA, a Sexual Health Service, or your own doctor for a sexual health check-up.

3. What is cunnilingus?

Cunnilingus is another name for oral sex with a woman. It is using your mouth and tongue to stimulate the genitals of a female.

4. My girlfriend and I have been having sex, but I can't seem to make her orgasm. Is something wrong with her, or am I doing something wrong?

Surveys have shown that most females don't orgasm from penetrative sex alone and that they require stimulation of their clitoris as well.

Also, some women have never experienced an orgasm. There could be many reasons for this, but if you spend some time discussing this with her, you might learn how to satisfy her.

5. What is the best position to make a woman orgasm?

The best tip for high quality sexual relationships is for the people involved to discuss what they like and dislike, experiment and have fun. It could be quite awkward at first to talk about this, but worth it in the long run.

6. I want to try anal sex but my girlfriend isn't interested. How can I convince her to give it a go?

If she is not interested then nothing will convince her. Everybody has their own boundaries and it is very important to respect these. It is also important that people are not pressured/coerced into doing things they don't want to do.

7. My boyfriend wants sex all the time, like every day, sometimes more. I have tried to have sex to please him, but I don't want sex this much. What can I do?

Perhaps you could talk to him about the differences between your libidos (sex drives). You might consider options other than sex such as masturbation or mutual masturbation.