You don’t have to have sex with everyone you go out with. You don’t have to have sex with someone you’ve already had sex with. Listen to your body and your feelings. Having sex out of a sense of obligation or guilt isn’t going to be great sex for you. It’s your choice.
My boyfriend says he’ll dump me if I don’t have sex with him soon
Do you really want to go out with someone who is putting pressure on you? Talk about how you have the right to say no, that you are happy and enjoy doing whatever it is you are comfortable with. Tell him you would only want to have sex with someone who you trust and who respects you.
All my friends are having sex. I must be the only virgin left…
Sex with the wrong person or before you are ready is much worse than no sex at all. It doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you. It also saves you from worrying about infections and pregnancies and means you can focus on other things you like doing.
If you are in a relationship with someone who doesn’t want to have sex with you then you need to respect his or her feelings, or gently move on. What’s more important – the person and your relationship, or having sex?
I’ve had sex before. It’s no big deal
Some people aren’t that into sex. Most people say it actually improves with age.
It’s definitely better when you have time and are safe and don’t have to worry about being walked in on, getting infections or pregnancy, and when you feel relaxed and good about your own body. For many people it’s better when they really love their partner.
Many young people regret the first time they have sex, especially if they had been drinking. Good sex is about making decisions about how you want things to go BEFORE things start happening.
If you’ve had sex with one partner you don’t have to keep having sex with them or have sex with a new partner, unless you choose to.
You can trust me – we don’t need to use condoms
You can’t tell if someone has a sexually transmissible infection (STI) by looking. Condoms will protect you from many STIs, including HIV. Use condoms unless you are in a relationship where you’ve been having sex with condoms for longer than three months, and you’ve both been for a recent sexual health check and neither of you are seeing anyone else.
My parents might find out if I use contraception
They would probably prefer that you’ve been protecting yourself. A pregnancy would be harder to hide!
Condoms take all the pleasure away
Condoms are sensitive, and there’s a lot of pleasure in knowing you’re not at risk of an infection or pregnancy.
Condoms are too small for me
Yeah, right! Condoms come in lots of shapes and sizes. They even come in non-latex for people who are allergic to rubber.
